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This post makes me so fucking angry.
First of all, have some things about Amy that do not refer to Rory, the Doctor or her job as a kissogram:

Her best friend (who was also her daughter, yes, but she didn’t know that) frequently got into trouble and Amy felt responsible for taking care of her.

She apparently lost her whole family to a strange alien creature without noticing it, leaving her all alone in a big house.

She is the only companion we know of who went to see a therapist — or, rather, four.

Due to her mental condition, she found it hard to ever stay in a job or even go through the process of training long enough to gain a “proper” one.

In an alternate universe, she lived with her aunt.

Even in that universe, people thought she was bonkers.

And now let’s talk about something else. Because what you all choose to ignore is that we are talking about a character here who 1. met the Doctor at an extremely early stage of her life, unlike all the other companions, 2. was childhood friends with the guy who later became her husband, thus of course experiencing a lot of things with him, 3. was alone and unable to lead healthy relationships until that whole thing with the Doctor coming back happened and she allowed Rory to really become part of her life and those two people actually saved her from feeling meaningless. The Doctor and Rory are, besides Melody, her only social relations, so of course most of her history is connected to them. If you take someone and list their entire set of friends and family and enemies, and then say “tell me something about them that doesn’t have to do with any of those”, of course one will be stuck. The question above basically means nothing but “Tell me something about Amy that has nothing to do with everyone she knows or her job”. That’s a completely inappropriate way to put it! Especially seeing as how much her timeline was tempered with and influenced by the Doctor and the Silence.
Stop making everything you see into some sort of argument for mysogyny. Amy isn’t insufficiently emancipated or a weak character or only dependent on the men in her life. She is someone who was played and abused by several forces, who trusted the wrong people and who ended up with a long history of mental illness. She is also someone who eventually found the stability she needed with Rory and it’s absolutely fine to undergo the healing process by resting upon the strength of a relationship and the help of someone who loves you. Rory and the Doctor are the most important people in her life, a life that does not include many people int he first place, so of course they play a big role in all you can say about her. Being in a relationship with a man doesn’t make you any less of an independet woman. Admitting to your own flaws and weaknesses doesn’t make you any less of a strong character. Running away from your fears for a while before having to face them doesn’t make you any less of a fighter. Amy has a lot of depth and just because not every single thing about her past is revealed, that doesn’t mean it isn’t there and you can’t see it. Because you can. It becomes obvious in episodes like Vincent and the Doctor. We come to know a lot about what Amy feels like and the reason why this often is set in relation to what Rory or the Doctor feel like is because she sets herself in relation to them. Her emotions are often a reflection of what she gets from them because they are her family and she is desperate to keep them together. Again, as with Melody, she feels responsible for their well-being because she boosts her self-esteem by feeling needed. Which is perfectly human and has nothing to do with her sex. She is a wife and a mother because she chooses to (she could have refused as she didn’t have to raise the daughter that was forced upon her, but she wanted to be her mom and in a way the Doctor’s mom), but that does not keep her from dealing with her issues while also being a heroine, an adventuress, a traveller, a soldier and a friend. That’s what I call a female role model.

It is so important to me that Amy is a character with canonical mental health issues, but literally all I ever hear about her these days is how rubbish and unrealistic she is, which makes me feel…eh, you can probably imagine