remember that every time someone mocks “weird” or “oversensitive” behavior such as stimming, not being able to eat certain foods because the taste/texture/etc. are too overwhelming, having a shutdown because of too much sound/lights/people, stuttering, trembling, dissociating, or other things, they are being ableist.
it doesn’t matter if they don’t know about your autism/anxiety/etc., they are still mocking you for not acting like a neurotypical person would. They still are associating your “weirdness” to being mentally ill, and think it’s funny because society thinks it is.
don’t accept shitty apologies like “how was I/were they supposed to know?”. They subconsciously know what is going on, they just want to make fun of neurodivergent people without looking bad for it.
I was just thinking this morning about how much sitcom humor is based on “laugh at this person with obvious autistic traits” and here it is