Feminism is not about who opens the jar.
It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves
the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who
cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as
long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about
your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your
particular marriage and family.
It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by
“default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the
couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or
is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is
male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking
is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.
But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to
change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If
you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You
might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and
the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try
something else. So try it.”
4 ignorant delusions people have about feminism (via brutereason)