All it means when people say “you’re speaking from a place of privilege” is that you’re likely to underestimate how bad the problem is by default because you are never personally exposed to that problem. It’s not a moral judgement of how difficult your life is.
example: i’m right-handed, so when i discovered that left-handed people can’t properly use scissors made for me (so basically all scissors i’d ever seen or used) let me tell you that was a fucking eye-opener
no matter how much better their life is, a left-handed person will have to track down specialized scissors or be forever frustrated while i live that happy snipping life
and that’s the tip of the iceberg concerning right-handed privilege, especially in a historical context, but you get my point
Also, privilege isn’t about *you* as an individual and your specific experiences which is why I LOVE the left-/right-handedness analogy. Privilege is often the result of an accident of birth, not the result of your effort or choices. It’s not an indictment of *you* but of a social system that treats *accidents of birth* in a preferential way. When one fails to recognize this, one is “speaking from a place of privilege.”
“Accidents of birth” can include skin color, sex, gender, wealth, location, handedness, language, ability, intellect, etc.